Monday, March 20, 2017

What to Expect from President Trump - Behavioral Analysis

As an executive coach and Certified Behavioral Analyst, I see President Trump having the same profile as about 13% of our population—what I all the True Entrepreneur. You probably know an entrepreneur or salesperson with many of these same characteristics. You probably know good businesspeople who do entrepreneurial things, but they don't do it with the level of un-sanity that the True Entrepreneur uses.

Here are some of the characteristics of the True Entrepreneur. It's not the complete list, and not all True Entrepreneurs exhibit all the characteristics. Here are the ones that appear to be pretty obvious about our President Trump. 

They’re both arsonist and fireman. By starting fires, and then putting them out when they feel like it, it gives them the chance to see what’s worth saving. Expect more fires to start.

Chaos reigns—and it’s normal for them. While everyone goes crazy, they cherry-pick opportunities out of the chaos. Expect his chaos to be normal.

Conclusions are not conclusions. We think they’re done when actually they’re still processing and will make more changes. We think he puts a period, when it's more like he uses a comma. Expect a comma.

They love a challenge and they love change, so they can change things just to see how it would work. Now we’re gonna have change. Expect President Trump to keep stirring the pot.

They always play to win and to go for the opportunities they find. On the other hand, the government plays “not to lose" and prefers to slow things down, analyze the situation, explore the options, and then decide—after President Trump has already got the train on the track and gaining ground. Expect him to go for it.

Risk equals opportunity. Risk and opportunity usually go together. They engage risk that others would avoid. Expect him to take risks.

They prefer speed over accuracy. They are confident in moving ahead quickly, but need someone good at handling details and damage control. Expect speed and damage control.

Mistakes are part of the education process. They make it up as they go, they learn to recover quickly. Expect mistakes and hope for a quick recovery.

They often think of their ideas as a done deal, even if the deal never gets done. Expect him to speak of things as done, even when they’re not.

They are creative, inventive, unorthodox problem-solvers. Expect there will never be a dull moment. Their relationships will tend to be strained, and they feel like very few people understand them or the vision they have that they want to create.

These are a few of the characteristics more common to True Entrepreneurs.

The future is continuously emerging at a pace faster than many are able to adapt. True Entrepreneurs generally adapt quickly, and the future will belong to “big picture” entrepreneurs with vision who solve problems. I could say more, but you get the idea of what to expect from a True Entrepreneur—like President Trump appears to be.

See the video at: https://youtu.be/bctfIyvmtYc

This is Coach Mack, wanting for you to be, do and have more of what you want in your life. Please subscribe to my YouTube channel, and you can find me on LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter.  

Thursday, February 23, 2017

Eliminate What You Tolerate—We Put Up with Too Much!

Tolerations and Time-wasters, we all have them.

One of the goals of coaching is to eliminate what you tolerate. Most of us put up with way too much.
We don’t have enough time, money, love, resources—whatever. We get distracted by our problems and other people’s problems. We don’t get our needs met, and we tolerate many situations when we don’t really have to do so.

Some people are problem magnets—they walk down the street and a piano hits them, some develop themselves into problem-free zones, and when problems come up, they handle them and get on with their lives. It's better if you're a PFZ (Problem Free Zone).

If you’re a problem magnet, it’s probably taken you a long time to build a hut on the island of troubles, it can take you some time to build a bridge to the island of paradise.

Some tolerations are easy to eliminate. One client kept worrying about needing new tires until I pointed out how much time he wasted worrying about it. Took one hour to fix.

Some things are more difficult. Another wanted to live in a warmer, balmy climate. He had to find the new job, address family concerns, figure the costs to move and a budget for what kind of home and expenses he would have. It took him about 4 years to plan and make the move, but he did it well.

Another wanted to find the perfect job, it took about 2 years to find the job he wanted to keep. That's the difficult part—finding the job you want to keep, and with a company that wants to keep you.

Some things require strategy and preparation. Like how do you tell people who are important to you to treat you differently? What if your supervisor gives you a compliment ant then pats you on top of your head? How would you ask you supervisor to stop patting you on the head when she says something nice about you?

The question is: How long are you going to tolerate stuff in your life before you make some positive changes?

Your brain keeps telling you that maybe it's not so bad. Maybe things will simply get better. Maybe you need a coach?

See the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PFFudJIJLeI&feature=youtu.be

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Reaching Your Goals, Executive and LIfe Coach Mack Arrington, PCC

It’s been said that a goal without a deadline is just a wish, and a wish with a deadline becomes a goal. 

When Imeet people who don’t know what their goals are, I usually ask two simple questions:
Is there something in your life you’d like to start, stop, change or improve?
Is there something you’d like to do that you have not already done?

To question 1, what do you want to start, stop, change or improve, are you as productive as want to be, do manage your time and your choices well, do you want to be heard, improve relationships and communication, do you want to lead, get a return on your investments of time, money, energy? Do you want to help people, create new things, find peace in yourself and your world?

To question 2, Is there something you want to do you have not already done? Maybe you have heard of John Goddard. When John was a teenager, he wrote down 127 goals he wanted to achieve. He explored the Amazon and Nile Rivers, climbed mountains, flew planes, became an Eagle Scout, lit a match with a rifle bullet, studied classical music, visited a movie studio, read the whole Bible and went on to write down and accomplish over 500 goals in his life.

When you write down your goals, they take on a different reality, a different focus—as long as it’s a goal you take seriously.

Is there something you want to do? Get clear on your goals, set some deadlines to achieve them. If you don’t have any goals that excite you, or you’re having trouble reaching your goals, maybe you need a coach to help you do them.

See the video at: https://youtu.be/yA-WOR-h8Eg

Monday, January 30, 2017

Everybody Needs a Coach: Introducing Mack Arrington, PCC

If you’re looking for a coach, you’d probably like to know a bit about me and how we would work together. I’ve worked hard to become board-certified by the International Coach Federation (ICF) as a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and have been an Executive and Life Coach since 2001.

I’ve helped my clients:
• Follow their dreams
• Improve their leadership
• Find their perfect job
• Win awards
• Go into business—or—out of business
• Improve sales
• Hire the right people
• Save their marriages or go through a divorce
• Deepen their faith
• Save their careers
• Set goals and reach them
• Get organized and be more efficient and effective
• Improve relationships

How do we work together?
I have coached people all across the USA and Canada mostly by phone, some for a long as five or more years without meeting with them face to face. Most people do well with two or three sessions per month by phone. Some require face-to-face. I can be flexible depending on your situation.

We usually work on three areas: Goals, Tolerations and Structures for Success.

Goals
Once you clarify your goals, you can start making better decisions immediately because you know what you want, and also what you don’t want. It’s not unusual for your goals to change as you go from what you thought you should do into what you truly want to do (and stop shoulding all over yourself…). One of the most important people to lead is yourself in reaching your goals.

Tolerations
Tolerations are the things and people you put up with in your life, and things that waste your time and energy. We want to eliminate what you tolerate, and of course, some things are easy and others require some strategy and planning. For examples, it’s easy to eliminate the need for a phone by buying a new phone. It can be a lot harder when you are tolerating someone in your life who is very negative. Some people are problem magnets, others have developed into problem-free zones who handle situations and move on with life. Some get bogged down with all they have to do or fix, and you need to keep going.

Success Structure
Structures for success are necessary to reach your goals and avoid “brain ambush.” Whenever you need to make changes, your brain prefers to keep doing what it already knows. In stepping towards your goals, you will face fatigue, stress and novel situations you didn’t expect—things that can distract, delay and defeat you. You’ll need to develop new habits, build reserves of time and other resources and set bigger, better boundaries to maintain your focus and de-fragment your life. Creating new structures or re-setting old structures and boundaries can be extremely difficult.

The other thing is that a great coach brings out your best self. The job of the coach is to witness your greatness and call forth your best—your wisdom and experience—and put this into play for your life.

That’s what I do. Let me know how I can be of service to you.

See the video at: https://youtu.be/nKms9Ln-n1k
Main web site: http://www.mackarrington.com

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Does President Donald Trump Fit the Profile of the True Entrepreneur?


Have you ever thought that President Trump might have things in common with some of the great men in US History—like Andrew Carnegie, Alexander Hamilton, William Penn and even Christopher Columbus?
They all have a significant number of characteristics of the TRUE Entrepreneur. But first, I want to make a distinction between a business entrepreneur and what I call the True Entrepreneur.

The Business Entrepreneur does due diligence before jumping into a business. They do research, some feasibility study and a biz plan before they decide to jump.

A TRUE entrepreneur sees a problem or a detail that others tend to miss, and they can jump in and create a multi-million dollar business from it, or fail with great gusto. It’s been speculated that about 13% of the US population are True E’s.
There is a list of characteristics that include:
  • Filled with energy
  • Flooded with ideas
  • Driven, restless, and unable to keep still
  • Channels his energy into the achievement of wildly grand ambitions
  • Feels brilliant, special, chosen, perhaps even destined to change the world
  • Acts out sexually
And there are 10 others in the list (see video for complete list https://youtu.be/3GIvKqpTv6E). A significant number of these characteristics fit many great leaders in our history, you can decide how many of these characteristics fit President Trump.

As an Executive and Life Coach since 2001, I’ve coached a lot of entrepreneurs, and I can add a few things to this list.

The TRUE Entrepreneur
  • Always plays to win, and they hate to lose. It’s not unusual that hating to lose is often a bigger motivator than winning. 
NOTE that some would observe that in the recent decades, our country shifted from an attitude of playing to win to an attitude of “playing not to lose.” Think of this difference: If you’re playing to win, how will you play the game, if you’re playing not to lose, how will you play the game?
  • The true E can be unpredictable. They like to stir the pot to see what comes to the surface. They enjoy change, and if you talk to people who work for a true E, you often hear things like, “if he’d just stay out of the office/store/shop we could run it just fine—he screws up the system every time he comes in the door.” They live on the edge, and they love it because, WOW what a view!
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  • You have to listen carefully because they talk in order to think. Don’t make the mistake of thinking they’ve reached a conclusion when they are really talking in order to process the situation. Don’t make the mistake of thinking a conclusion is final when new information, insights or ideas can turn things completely around.
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  • They think BIG, they exaggerate, they speak as if their ideas are already a done deal, they juggle everything—it’s part of the spark that keeps them going.
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  • The True E is messy. They thrive in chaos. They create chaos. They can be both the arsonist and the fireman. They bog down in details. They hate doing paperwork. Details are best left to those who are good at handling details.
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  • Relationships suffer because it can be difficult to keep up with a True E.
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  • They are not crazy, the True E just sees things differently. Where the average person sees a closed door and high risk, the true E sees opportunity and possibility, and they do not shy away from taking a calculated risk, or acting on a gut feeling.
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  • They value speed and control over quality and accuracy, and tend to be good at damage control when they make mistakes. Mistakes tend to be the price they pay for their education.
The big thing to remember is that the True Entrepreneurs do not come with warning labels, operator’s manuals or antidotes. Don’t expect consistency, stability and a steady pace. Remember that stress, risk and overload bring out their best. And if you have a True Entrepreneur in your life…try to enjoy the adventure.

If you want to know more about the Psychological makeup of the entrepreneur, the book I quoted earlier with the 16 characteristics is titled: The Hypomanic Edge: The Link Between a Little Craziness and a Lot of Success in America by John D. Gartner, PhD

And if you are an Entrepreneur, or want to know more about working with an Entrepreneur—or if you’re already trying to work with one, you might need a coach, so get in touch with me: thecoach@mackarrington.com.

This is Coach Mack Arrington, wanting for you to BE, DO and HAVE more of what you really want in your life.

See the video at: https://youtu.be/3GIvKqpTv6E

Monday, January 9, 2017

Relationship Bonus Tip #2 of 2: Only Two Ways People Learn to Treat You

At some point in your life, somebody has probably treated you badly, unfairly, cheated you, or taken advantage of you. Probably more than once. You might be tired of feeling like a doormat. Consider that there are only two ways people learn how to treat you:

1. What you teach them
2. What they get by with

If you don’t like the way somebody is treating you, the FIRST question you need to ask yourself is, “What have I taught them?”

It helps to know what to teach them. I do personality testing that lets you identify many preferences for how you want to be treated. Point: I work with many clients to identify what they want and how to ask for it. The amazing thing is that, simply by asking, they often get what they want.

This brings up the next question: What if you teach them how to treat you and they don’t? —Then I have to ask, is it because they cannot honor your request, or because they WILL not treat you like you ask.

Example of can not. I have a friend with intermediate stage dementia. Whenever we get with her for dinner, she always says, “You know what my friend Eddie used to say?”—and then I say, “I am sooo tired of hearing what Eddie used to say, please don’t repeat it again.” Then she repeats it, and laughs her cute cackling little laugh. Maybe I could take it better if I thought what Eddie said was really funny.

I know she can’t help it, so though I get irritated, I don’t get mad. I don’t leave. I don’t try to debate with her. I accept the fact that she can’t respect my preference even after I teach her what I prefer.

Example of valiant effort. I have a friendly business friend who was told not to call female prospects “sweetie” on a sales call. It took a while to retrain himself, and he learned to apologize every time he slipped.

Example of will not. An ex-friend kept inviting herself into my life. If she found out that I’m going out with friends, to the beach, even a committee meeting, she would invite herself and expect others to pay for her friendly participation. After repeatedly telling her not to do this, she became an ex-friend.

You have to decide what kind of friends and relationships you want. And you have to have the courage to set your boundaries, BIG boundaries, and maintain your boundaries. But courage and boundaries are topics for another time.

See the video at: https://youtu.be/DRpv4TTAI68

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Relationship Tip Bonus #1 of 2: Request vs. Expect

Have you noticed how hard it can be to read someone else’s mind—or have someone read yours? Have you ever tried to guess what someone wanted—and guessed wrong? The difficulty comes when we are expected automatically to know what someone else wants. The remedy is to make a request for what you want.

When you request, you ask for what you want in a direct and specific manner. When you just expect something, you don't say anything or perhaps drop some hints and hope you get what you expect.

Very few people are able to second guess or read minds when it comes to giving you what you want, be it in material things or relationships. In getting what you want, sometimes the magic happens and you actually get it without asking. To get what really want, most of us have to ask, and be specific or risk getting the wrong size, wrong color or wrong thing altogether. If you have a relationship with someone who always seems to know what you want, be very thankful and appreciative of this person.

If you prefer to be treated in a certain way, request it. If you want to have something specific, request it. If you want a certain level of respect and attention or you want certain things to start, stop or change: request it. Don't rely on others to somehow "just know." There is something of an art to requesting what you really want, and you have to develop a polite and respectful way to ask.

How will you request what you want in such a way to get it? How will others view you when you request and they don't have to guess? Who will you be when you get what you want?

Request vs. Expect. See the video at: https://youtu.be/wjm_T6ykalk