I coach a lot of people who start out feeling unattractive whether they are unattractive or not. This usually is very frustrating and gets in the way of your goals and flow in life. I believe inside everybody there is a good kid who wants to come out and play, to love and be loved.
Remember this: you can’t see yourself as others see you. Your coach sees you like nobody else sees you. A good coach is usually pretty good at spotting your personal attraction factors.
Feeling that you are attractive to yourself, without being cocky and prideful about it, is attractive. I mean, do you really want to hang out with people who are always down on themselves? If you don't feel attracted to yourself, others will have a harder time feeling attracted to you.
Sometimes, to start/spark the Attraction process, you'll choose to do something that makes you feel incredibly good—maybe joyful—about yourself, even if it makes no sense to others. Sometimes you choose to take care of yourself in a special way—ice cream sundaes and swimming do this for me. What do you find attractive for you, yourself, to do? How do you love yourself in ways that really matter?
[We look] for happiness in possession of the external - in money, a good time, somebody to lean on, and so on. We are impatient, hurried and fretful because we do not find happiness where we look for it. -John Dewey
Look for attraction factors in who you are, in who you set yourself to become, not in things or other people. I note a difference between being happy with yourself vs being done with evolving yourself. Keep evolving.
And if you’re ever coming by my way, how about we meet for ice cream or something?