Tolerations and Time-wasters, we all have them.
One of the goals of coaching is to eliminate what you tolerate. Most of us put up with way too much.
We don’t have enough time, money, love, resources—whatever. We get distracted by our problems and other people’s problems. We don’t get our needs met, and we tolerate many situations when we don’t really have to do so.
Some people are problem magnets—they walk down the street and a piano hits them, some develop themselves into problem-free zones, and when problems come up, they handle them and get on with their lives. It's better if you're a PFZ (Problem Free Zone).
If you’re a problem magnet, it’s probably taken you a long time to build a hut on the island of troubles, it can take you some time to build a bridge to the island of paradise.
Some tolerations are easy to eliminate. One client kept worrying about needing new tires until I pointed out how much time he wasted worrying about it. Took one hour to fix.
Some things are more difficult. Another wanted to live in a warmer, balmy climate. He had to find the new job, address family concerns, figure the costs to move and a budget for what kind of home and expenses he would have. It took him about 4 years to plan and make the move, but he did it well.
Another wanted to find the perfect job, it took about 2 years to find the job he wanted to keep. That's the difficult part—finding the job you want to keep, and with a company that wants to keep you.
Some things require strategy and preparation. Like how do you tell people who are important to you to treat you differently? What if your supervisor gives you a compliment ant then pats you on top of your head? How would you ask you supervisor to stop patting you on the head when she says something nice about you?
The question is: How long are you going to tolerate stuff in your life before you make some positive changes?
Your brain keeps telling you that maybe it's not so bad. Maybe things will simply get better. Maybe you need a coach?
See the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PFFudJIJLeI&feature=youtu.be
Thursday, February 23, 2017
Wednesday, February 15, 2017
It’s been said that a goal without a deadline is just a wish, and a wish with a deadline becomes a goal.
When I meet people who don’t know what their goals are, I usually ask two simple questions:
Is there something in your life you’d like to start, stop, change or improve?
Is there something you’d like to do that you have not already done?
To question 1, what do you want to start, stop, change or improve, are you as productive as want to be, do manage your time and your choices well, do you want to be heard, improve relationships and communication, do you want to lead, get a return on your investments of time, money, energy? Do you want to help people, create new things, find peace in yourself and your world?
To question 2, Is there something you want to do you have not already done? Maybe you have heard of John Goddard. When John was a teenager, he wrote down 127 goals he wanted to achieve. He explored the Amazon and Nile Rivers, climbed mountains, flew planes, became an Eagle Scout, lit a match with a rifle bullet, studied classical music, visited a movie studio, read the whole Bible and went on to write down and accomplish over 500 goals in his life.
When you write down your goals, they take on a different reality, a different focus—as long as it’s a goal you take seriously.
Is there something you want to do? Get clear on your goals, set some deadlines to achieve them. If you don’t have any goals that excite you, or you’re having trouble reaching your goals, maybe you need a coach to help you do them.
See the video at: https://youtu.be/yA-WOR-h8Eg