Thursday, February 23, 2017

Eliminate What You Tolerate—We Put Up with Too Much!

Tolerations and Time-wasters, we all have them.

One of the goals of coaching is to eliminate what you tolerate. Most of us put up with way too much.
We don’t have enough time, money, love, resources—whatever. We get distracted by our problems and other people’s problems. We don’t get our needs met, and we tolerate many situations when we don’t really have to do so.

Some people are problem magnets—they walk down the street and a piano hits them, some develop themselves into problem-free zones, and when problems come up, they handle them and get on with their lives. It's better if you're a PFZ (Problem Free Zone).

If you’re a problem magnet, it’s probably taken you a long time to build a hut on the island of troubles, it can take you some time to build a bridge to the island of paradise.

Some tolerations are easy to eliminate. One client kept worrying about needing new tires until I pointed out how much time he wasted worrying about it. Took one hour to fix.

Some things are more difficult. Another wanted to live in a warmer, balmy climate. He had to find the new job, address family concerns, figure the costs to move and a budget for what kind of home and expenses he would have. It took him about 4 years to plan and make the move, but he did it well.

Another wanted to find the perfect job, it took about 2 years to find the job he wanted to keep. That's the difficult part—finding the job you want to keep, and with a company that wants to keep you.

Some things require strategy and preparation. Like how do you tell people who are important to you to treat you differently? What if your supervisor gives you a compliment ant then pats you on top of your head? How would you ask you supervisor to stop patting you on the head when she says something nice about you?

The question is: How long are you going to tolerate stuff in your life before you make some positive changes?

Your brain keeps telling you that maybe it's not so bad. Maybe things will simply get better. Maybe you need a coach?

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