Thursday, May 26, 2011

How Do You Want to Be Treated?

There are only two ways people learn to treat you: 

1- What you teach them
2- What they get by with

If you don't like the way someone is treating you, ask yourself what you have—or have not—taught them. For example, You can ask some people to stop calling you a name you don't like. If they stop calling you that name, then you have taught them your preference and have relieved your pain. Note that you might have to teach the lesson more than once for it to take hold.

If they don't stop, then you can consider: is it because they are unable to stop, or are they unwilling to stop? In either case, you can decide to put up with the name calling, or you can decide to distance yourself from these people, or you can decide to completely end your relationship or engage other options depending on how upset you are.

Here are questions to consider:
    How do you want to be treated, or what do you want to change?
    How will others have to change for you to be treated better?
    How likely are others to cooperate with your request for change?
    What amount of risk are you willing to take—could you lose a friend, a job or something important to you?
    What will you say and do to politely teach others your preferences?

You might want to do the Clean Sweep Program. This 100-item checklist has helped thousands of people eliminate what they tolerate and create the life and relationships they really want. Find the Clean Sweep at —about half way down the page in the Program section. Let me know your score from your first pass, I bet you get at least 10 points.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

To Be Rich or To Be Poor: Which Attitude Describes You?

When times get tough for the country, we often hear the cry to raise taxes on the rich, and there is a feeling somehow that the rich do not deserve to be rich or that they are obligated to take care of the poor. But if we look at the extremes of rich vs poor, what are some of the differences we find?
The rich use money as a tool for creating wealth, the poor use money as a means to buy comfort.
The rich buy education (not necessarily from schooling), the poor buy entertainment.
The rich look for opportunities, the poor look for jobs.
The rich expect a return on investment, the poor expect entitlements.
The rich fail and rise again and again, the poor fail and accept that this is how it is.
The rich will work days, nights, weekends and holidays to be successful, the poor want a 40-hour regular work week with benefits.
The rich push themselves to get ahead. The poor try just to get by.
The rich want to control their own destiny. The poor want to be taken care of.
The rich have the money to create businesses that provide jobs, the poor spend what they have and still can not provide for themselves.
I know this sounds rather blunt, but the success stories often have a bluntness about them. You have people like Nido Qubein who came to the USA with $50 in his pocket, and now owns several successful businesses and is the President of High Point University — or Dr. Ben Carson who grew up in poverty, but his mom turned off the TV and kept him focused on his opportunities until he became one of the leading neurosurgeons in the world.
What makes the difference between those who rise from poverty to success and having money vs. those who stay poor? How do you lead yourself to success in the face of adversities?
References: From the Trash Man to the Cash Man by Myron Golden, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker