I love this paradoxical saying:
I've gone out to find myself. Should I get back before I return, please keep me here.—Mike Curtiz
This begs the question of just how do you realize you’ve lost yourself, and then how do you go find yourself? Frankly, as a life coach I don’t believe you ever lose or find yourself in the first place. To lose yourself means that (a) you finally had a conscious realization that decisions you made in your life have led you to a place of dissatisfaction and un-fulfillment, and (b) you need to make some changes but you’re not sure what all to change.
To find yourself means that you probably went out and tried a lot of different things until you discovered something that deep down felt really right to you. It means that you rebuilt yourself into somebody you truly like.
I once was a highly successful Senior Graphic Designer, creating ads, brochures, and presentations for ad agencies and corporations. One day I woke up and said, “I really hate this job.” I had “what” I thought I wanted, and I had it “how” I thought I wanted it, but the what and how was not building me into a “who” that I enjoyed being. I changed jobs four times in the path to becoming a life coach.
Building myself into a successful life coach required a journey of being bluntly honest and gentle with myself. I knew I needed to make changes, and changes take courage and energy. For myself, I knew I had to move from a highly technical production environment into something that made a difference in people’s lives. I started building myself away from technical production into people development.
Now about you,
What and How are you becoming Who?
Have you found your Self feeling sad and blue?
Will you embrace the adventure to build your Self new?
Or do you add another year you will or won’t undo?
Look into your life and see if there’s a clue,
Take a step, another step, till you know Who.
"Finding yourself" is coming to the realization that at last you have built yourself into someone you really like rather than someone you should have liked.
—Life Coach Mack Arrington
I’ve gone out to re-build myself, if I come back with some pieces missing, I’m still under construction.